• Will you be my friend?

    Having left all my friends behind in the US, I have no friends other than my hubby, his friends, and his family in Australia.  And I’m feeling lonely.  So I ask – how do you make friends in Australia?

    I’m not currently working so I can’t make friends through the workplace.  I do go out shopping and to playgrounds and playgroups.  I have been friendly toward those that I encounter and they have been friendly back but no chemistry.

    It’s like I’m the new girl at a new high school.  And I have lots of experience being the new girl as I have had lots of moves from city to city or from neighborhood to neighborhood in my childhood.  Therefore, I have experience in being the new girl AND making new friends.  I didn’t have hundreds of friends but I did have friends and was friendly with many.

    I consider myself a nice and fun person to be with and I would have a lot to offer in a friendship so what gives?  I don’t know.  I guess I’m having a pity party and I’m the only one invited so I’m very lonely.

    Categories: What the...?

    5 thoughts on “Will you be my friend?

    • aus2007 says:

      My experience so far has been that the friendliest people are expats themselves. The people who have reached out to us, and who we’ve gotten together with the most (playdates at each other’s houses, etc.) are people who’ve moved here from another country, either several years ago, or recently.

      I don’t find too much at playgrounds other than a bit of small talk. Doesn’t seem to go further than that. I am not the most out-going person, though, so maybe that’s part of it. I did join a playgroup early on (it has since pretty much disbanded, due to low turnout), and that has led to one nice friendship. It was a Jewish playgroup, so we also have that common bond. I don’t know what your background is, but maybe a church or temple group could be an option? Any storytimes at your local library, where moms of similar aged kids might go?

      Sorry we don’t live nearer. I’d be your friend!

    • Madelin says:

      aww pookie your lonely…i can imagine.. i have friends and still feel lonely.. so don’t feel so bad..

    • elsja says:

      Can I join your pity party? I’ve just spent the last month back in CA and I’ve loved every minute of it. My friends, my family…. and now I’m coming back to sydney on saturday…back to my lonliness. I’ll be your friend 🙂

    • Tors says:

      Know that you’re not alone on this. I think there’s a lot to be said for the differences in the way that Aussies & Americans “relate” to one another… especially women.

      Being the way I am, I’m probably the last person to give advice on making friends, but on observation I gather that it just takes longer to crack into their world. Keep going back to playgroup and library storytimes… once you become a fixture, they’ll open up. Joining a club or church/religious org is good advice too. Aussies love their clubs! hehe.

      And once you’re in, you’re in!

    • Y says:

      Thanks, Tors, I was believing to think I am a major loser because I can’t make friends here but I read somewhere (not sure if it was your site) that Aussie’s keep their friends from childhood and it’s hard to break into that inner circle.

    Leave a Reply

    Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *